Robert Kraft—Some Thoughts
Robert Kraft presents an interesting dilemna for law enforcement in which discretion should be used and his case should probably be dismissed.
Before anyone writes me about double standards. Let me explain this view. Law enforcement always has discretion in going forth with prosecution.
Kraft was married for fifty years. He talks about crying every night after his wife died. He is grieving. He needs grief counseling. He met a young woman and she became pregnant. Apparently, the child was not his or he will not acknowledge it. Men have sought prostitutes since the beginning of time. They think it is their right. I understood this concept when a man asked me to marry in order for him to get custody of his son fathered in one of these relationships. I declined for three reasons: 1. He wanted as prenup so that my fee could be settled from the outset for the marriage, 2. He liked prostitutes and stated that he preferred leaving money on the table. He did not practice safe sex in a time of Aids. 3. I did not want a marriage strictly for money even if it meant becoming a millionaire this way. This experience taught me something about myself and men.
Kraft is a lonely old man who is still grieving for his wife. He needs sympathy and support. He has probably had this relationship with women in massage parlors for years. He is not a part of sex trafficking. He is a lonely old man. I am reminded of a class and conference I took in my first year of casework. The therapy covered all phases of sex in a theraputic milleu. Ultimately, after months or a year, it ended in sex. I remember the female professor laughing at the end of a conference and the class. She stated that this therapy immulated the oldest profession—prostitution. There has been a cuddling that has sprouted up where persons can obtain cuddling for a fee. Robert Kraft has enough money to hire a cuddler for a night three times a week or a couple of hours a night until he goes to sleep. This is legal. He can attend sex therapy where he practices all forms of intimacy and he can set the limit. When men get forty they want two twenty year olds. When they get sixty or eighty, how many women do they need. They want more than companionship? Can they do more without the purple pill? Viagra causes men to fool themselves. I do not want to see the Kraft video. I do not think it needs to be in the public if Jussie Smollet’s record is sealed. I think Kraft is still grieving and needs grief therapy. Smollet has other issues. Neither needs to be in jail for their violations of the law. They need counseling. Paying a fine is sufficient punishment. In most states, deferred adjudication is offered to first time offenders. After a fine and probationary period with no other crimes being committed, the charges are dismissed. They do not have to plead guilty. When I was practicing law, I would not allow a client to plead guilty in the event civil charges were later filed. I always advised him or her to plead nolo contendre. This meant I do not contest. The judge would say “You are still pleading guilty.” It was a technicality, but a civil defendant could not use my criminal case as proof of guilt to defeat me. I do not understand all the fuss. Did anyone really want Smollett to do more than pay a hugh fine for that hoax? What would jail time serve. He is clearly immature, sick and has poor judgment. Chris Rock punished him enough. It would humiliate the average person. I am concerned about his mental health. I see so many famous people who have mental problems. Some are serious. I worry about suicide but I do not know them. We need to learn compassion and our judicial system needs to exercise discretion for more than the rich. We just cannot forget the rich need discretion too.
